Never Go Uninvited

In RamCharitManas there is an incident where 

Shiv explicitly tells his wife Sati not to attend her father Daksha's grand sacrifice (yagna) because Daksha had deliberately not invited Shiv, signifying his deep dislike for him, and going uninvited would lead to humiliation and disrespect for both Sati and Shiv; essentially, Shiv advises her to not go to Daksha's house due to the potential for insult and conflict. 

Inherently Daksha doesn’t approve of Shiv. So Sati who 

due to the dilemma that Daksha is her father and she 

doesn’t need invite goes for the yadnya. However Daksha 

does not honor Shiv infact insults Shiv and what follows is 

Sati jumps into the yadnya and dies. She does this to keep 

the honor of Shiv. 

I have the same experience. I have not been honoured nor cherished. A wedding is planned for almost a year. Whatever needs to be done has a lot of time. If you don’t know a spelling of someone’s name you had the whole year to ask for it. To exclude the name from the list in the wedding card is to act deliberately. Secondly a saree is given to honour the relatives. If not given it is deliberate as lists for honouring people is made in advance and only then shopping is done for the wedding. I was never a part of their plan for celebration. 

These people are so unpredictable. 

Yet the invite was given to me as a courtesy. I will reciprocate the courtesy. 

Note: I have done many good deeds to these same people but alas !