Vaastu Has Gratitude ?

Even non living things demand your energies and therefore I think they too must be having gratitude for the carer. Especially a Vastu and among it a place you call home. 

I have brought my marital home to a level of spick n span cleanliness and has become my pride. Within my limits I give it a lot of love and try to make it beautiful improving it everyday, 9yrs of my life I have given to this home. However life’s insecurities loom heavy on it.

This greedy monster Ferzin Manek Patel is saying I was married to Arvi only for 3 yrs so she is more entitled to the home. Just by being born by accident to Aban, not living with her and not giving her the love and care a mother who is sick needs yet she demands for the home. 

Not for nothing this TIME is called KALYUG ! 

Our corrupt systems are going against nature. 

I trust in the plan of the UNIVERSE. Justice will happen as is in NATURE. 

I TRUST IN IT. 

मानपान : To Honor

In my culture when there are weddings relatives are honored with clothes and other rituals. 

Yesterday Harishchandra whom we call Harchan gifted me this saadi and said wear it for my son’s wedding and attend. I bought a good one. I thanked him and immediately he called his wife on phone who has been my childhood vacation friend in Thal and asked us to talk to each other. I felt so loved ! 

Harchan was a very hardworking kid growing up. His home was a hut and had no electricity even when the rest of our village had electricity. He went fishing with his father and studied well too. So my parents let him sleep and study in our Thal home. Which was huge and empty. My Aai lived there alone for around a decade at the time. She would share food with him at times. Later he worked for Zilla parishad. He told my cousins that he is grateful for our help. So he honors all of us 5 cousin sisters with saadis. He is one of the many my family has helped. I am grateful to my parents for teaching us kindness by example. 

It isn’t important how much the saadi costs! The love and honor is all that counts. He insisted I wear and attend knowing I might not wear it for the wedding. I immediately assured him. 

So today I made the tassels and getting my look ready for 8 March.

Inferiority Complex

When you don’t love yourself enough you feel inferior to others. 

I am very aware about how I talk to kids especially my next generation. I try to be encouraging and express my love through words and actions both. As an elder I try to instil an aspiration in the family kids. 

However not all kids are same. There are kids of all Colors and shape n size in the family. They are differently talented. Yet their immediate environment is not as evolved. Some have been subject to bullying due to color and discrimination due to not being as bright in studies as some elders in the family. 

This has led to the children rejecting anyone who tries to talk to them about these issues. 

It is the inferiority complex inside them that makes them project it on people and disconnect from them. It is the parents duty to guide the child about handling discrimination. It is part of life and one has to deal with it with the right attitude and not cut out every one especially well meaning people from life.

Sad that in this way their own growth will be stunted.  

Never Go Uninvited

In RamCharitManas there is an incident where 

Shiv explicitly tells his wife Sati not to attend her father Daksha's grand sacrifice (yagna) because Daksha had deliberately not invited Shiv, signifying his deep dislike for him, and going uninvited would lead to humiliation and disrespect for both Sati and Shiv; essentially, Shiv advises her to not go to Daksha's house due to the potential for insult and conflict. 

Inherently Daksha doesn’t approve of Shiv. So Sati who 

due to the dilemma that Daksha is her father and she 

doesn’t need invite goes for the yadnya. However Daksha 

does not honor Shiv infact insults Shiv and what follows is 

Sati jumps into the yadnya and dies. She does this to keep 

the honor of Shiv. 

I have the same experience. I have not been honoured nor cherished. A wedding is planned for almost a year. Whatever needs to be done has a lot of time. If you don’t know a spelling of someone’s name you had the whole year to ask for it. To exclude the name from the list in the wedding card is to act deliberately. Secondly a saree is given to honour the relatives. If not given it is deliberate as lists for honouring people is made in advance and only then shopping is done for the wedding. I was never a part of their plan for celebration. 

These people are so unpredictable. 

Yet the invite was given to me as a courtesy. I will reciprocate the courtesy. 

Note: I have done many good deeds to these same people but alas ! 

Give me strength Shree Ram

Reminds me of the sinking boat incident in Prayag mentioned in Shree Gondavalekar Maharaj’s Charitra.

Just for you to count how many things can go wrong in life, my life. Today I came back home with horrid spasms in the spine. Took injections and got relief. Tomorrow need to get X-rays done and few blood tests. 

हात धोके मेरे पीछे पडे है मेरे राम ! आखीर में गले लगाएंगे । पर अब के लिए सहन शक्ति देना प्रभू …

Tu Insan Tera Khandan Insan

There is so much to learn from dogs. Loyalty is foremost and fountain of love ! 

Rest I think this video is apt for Parsis like Ferzin Manek Patel. Sending her all the evil 👿 curses for harassing me. 

https://www.instagram.com/share/_0pNNuHF3

Bankruptcy or Homelessness?

My family whom I never met. I gave them a wall because I believe they watch over me.

If in life you have to choose Bankruptcy or Homelessness ? What would you choose ?

In my current situation these are thoughts that come to mind. Unless I ponder on these I will not be prepared to decide. I am a woman of 54 yrs. 

I will choose going Bankrupt. 

Loosing a Home is the last choice. As long as I have a home I can do these things.

1. I can sleep peacefully. 

2. I am not running from one place to another. 

3. Cook for myself without a home buying food becomes a compulsion.

4. I am in safe environment.

5. I can start working again. May be starting selling food again.

I have to think of these choices because Ferzin Manek Patel has blocked my inheritance when she herself is already living in abundance. This is PURE GREED.

*******

“They will try to break you, frustrate you, bring you down to your knees. These things are going to happen. Be strong, be flexible but don’t ever let anyone think you are helpless !”

Advice from an 80 yr old woman.

*******

When I trust my Shree Gondavalekar Maharaj I am prepared for what ever happens in life. 

My soul is untouched by these happenings. 

Hospitalisation & Bankruptcy

Like everyone else in Bharat my worry is I may be only one 🏥 hospitalisation away from  bankruptcy💸 !

I am a heart patient and have even mentioned this in court that what little money I have is kept aside for medical expenses.

How I curse 🤬 Ferzin Manek Patel,

 her uncle Rohinton and her legal team for blocking my inheritance from Ardaviraf. The Universe will deal with these greedy monsters ! 👹 

Who is this FRAUD Ferzin?

Ferzin Manek Patel

This is Ferzin. Born in 1996 to Ardaviraf’s sister Aban. You read the PUBLIC NOTICE in the previous post. 

Aban was divorced. Ferzin did not grow up with her. She was taken away by her father a way of good wording for kidnapped, when she was 8yrs old. Aban’s divorce decree states nothing should be given to child Ferzin and husband Manek.

She has never been there for her mother. Aban was ailing for 10yrs. She was unable to work so had no source of income. She was looked after by my husband Ardaviraf until her death in July 2013. 

Ferzin was 19yrs when she attended Ardaviraf and my wedding reception along with her father and extended family. See them here in my old blog. In the reception I was surrounded by the gang when Manek asked me, “So you have come to manage Ardaviraf’s matters?!” I was shell shocked. 

While Ardaviraf was alive she has visited us only 2 times.  She would only talk about money when she would make a phone call. 

I considered her as a child. The only child in Cooper family. As we had got married late at 45 yrs & Ardaviraf 48yrs respectively. We weren’t going to have a child. 

When she visited I always made sure she felt welcomed in the Cooper home. Ensured she never left empty handed. I told her she could come over and stay with us. I offered to teach her baking. We could travel together. However she never accepted any of the positive approach I made towards her. 

Ardaviraf had wished for 4 day prayers to be done at the Malabar Hill doongerwadi. After he passed on I requested Ferzin to stay there and do as he had wished. Since Parsi religion does NOT accept non Parsis like me. I offered to pay for all expenses for her and Manek’s stay there. SHE REFUSED. She did not even attend the full prayers schedule as per Parsi religion.

On the third day after Ardaviraf passed away she and her father asked me about property. I told that I will file a petition and once that’s done will give her as directed by Ardaviraf. 

Ardaviraf passed away in Oct 2018. In Nov was Ferzin’s birthday. I sent her a chocolate cake in an attempt to keep a loving connection with her even after her Uncle and my husband was no more.

Ardaviraf and I had decided that we will give the flat where I live ( since marriage until now ) to her after both of us are dead and gone. This against Aban’s divorce decree. However she started demanding even before the Petition order was released to me. Therefore it got converted to a suit. She was just 21 yrs then !

Two years ago we attempted a mediation that has not been closed or resolved due to her unreasonable demands. 

She is 28 years now. I can’t believe she is this FRAUD !

This is a common story with Parsis. They just want to freeload ! The Parsi laws are racial and discriminating. Even though I was married under Indian marriage act and Parsi law does not apply in the case. This objection by her is simply harassment.

I will narrate in the following blogs how the Parsi community has treated me. How they are wronging me by supporting her only as she is Parsi.

A Hot Chocolate Morning

A hot chocolate morning ☕️ just because I wanted to inaugurate the frother 😃 and use the Dutch processed Cocoa. 

My mantra : some things look very pretty but are not good for health. Use the pretty factor, take a lovely picture. Remove it and feed it to the dog. Nothing should be wasted. 

Ferzin Manek Patel Thane

Parsi Times 7December2019 

PUBLIC NOTICE

 

This is to inform the public at large that Mr. Ardaviraf Adi Cooper died intestate at Mumbai on 3rd October, 2018 leaving behind his wife i.e. myself  Anjali Ardaviraf Cooper  a.k.a. Anjali Narayan Koli as his only heir and legal representative. The said Ardaviraf Adi Cooper had invested in several companies. I being his only heir have applied to the Bombay High Court for Letters of Administration of  the credits and assets of Mr. Ardaviraf Adi Cooper and the matter is pending adjudication. 

 

I have learnt that Ferzin Manek Patel residing at A-203, `Ahuna’ 2nd floor, Divecha Complex, Eduljee Road, Charai, Thane (West), 400 601 is falsely claiming to the several companies that she is the only heir to inherit his estate and making applications for releasing the investments to her.

 

Be it known to all concerned that I am the only heir and legal representative of late Ardaviraf Adi Cooper and hence no amounts be released to the said Ferzin Manek Patel on any grounds whatsoever without my prior written consent.  If inspite of the above warning, any amounts are released to the said Ferzin Manek Patel, the concerned companies will be held solely liable and responsible for the loss caused to me.

 

Anjali Ardaviraf Cooper  

a.k.a. Anjali Narayan Koli

Happiness is Pristine

There Will Be Justice !

There will be justice !

I trust in his plan. 

The religion that teaches “Good Thoughts, Good Words, Good Deeds” is just a text book phrase now. The community is dwindling because it is not flexible, non inclusive. 

I am suffering so much injustice. The laws are archaic. The community ensures that it isolates non community members even if they are married to Parsis. At every step I face racism almost daily. This cannot be a great community. Doesn’t deserve the respect we gave them once. My experience after Ardaviraf passed away has been very bad.

I am here to stand up against the injustice inflicted on me. There will be justice! 

Beware if you think you can even try to bring me down ! 

To The Haters 💨

To The Haters 💨