Thode kele tar chaan hotat ... dheegbhar kele tar chivat hotat
That is what you need to be careful about.
While I promise the new joinees will be trained to make perfect ones. Here is what I feel about marriage and celebrations related to it. Hope anyone planning a wedding finds it useful. Especially a Koli wedding. This is for all those young grooms and brides who are waiting to get married after Paush is over. Some how I know too many of them are my younger first, second, third cousin brothers and sisters. We are a small community!
We Kolis are modernists when it comes to weddings. Our marriages are most times dowry free. The expenditure on clothes are minimum. The only expenditure is on food. Don't compromise on that. Feed as many people as possible if hosting the reception in the village.
When the couple decides to take the vows. It is their own 100 % risk. You will be your own reason for happiness or sorrow. Family is there for support but the decision should be 100 % your own.
How to plan a wedding:
A wedding is a highly private affair. Keep it that way. The main ceremony should be in the presence of the family from both sides. Public, audience is not required.
If one plans to have a vedic ceremony then all sanskar to be done at family level. Let the elders enjoy the Halad (Beauty treatment- Haldi ceremony) and giving blessing. Let the sisters enjoy preparing for all the small poojas, chuda (dressing up with bangles ceremony), mehndi (though not a koli tradition). Distribute the appropriate duties to all as per their capacities right from elders to children. Each one will enjoy their bit. It is their maan too. Maan is respect.
Do not overspend. If you are able to incorporate all sanskars and is done in presence of the family. Then it is a successful ceremony. Do not buy too many expensive sarees, traditional outfits. They are a waste. Instead buy enough clothes that you can wear to work, parties of the styles you are comfortable in.
If you have stashed a large sum for the wedding but incase you save after you have a small but sanskar rich wedding. Then you have 2 options. Donate whatever you saved for the wedding of a needy. Else use it for your needs to set up home.
Do not make your private, intimate affair that a family wedding is supposed to be into a garish tamasha. Patala tar ghya ...nahi tar sodun dya... accept it if convinced or leave it...
What I would like to see? Crazy couples just right for each other still together even after ages.
Making Sabudana Vadas taught me this lesson. Small batches make better vadas.
So new joinees here is the recipe:
Ingredients
1 cup sabudana/ sago
1 cup butter milk
Prepare sabudana by soaking in butter milk and storing it overnight.
3/4 cup boiled mashed potato
1/4 cup roasted peanuts, crushed
3-4 green chilies, fine chopped
1 teaspoon cumin seeds
salt to taste
Oil for frying
Mix everything together with overnight soaked sabudana to get a dough. Divide into ping pong sized balls. Flatten them for frying. This helps to use lesser oil and they can be shallow fried. Fry until golden and crisp.
Serve with Upavasa chi Chutney and curd if you are fasting. These can be shaped and frozen but after frying need to be served immediately. Once cold they turn rubbery and cannot be enjoyed.
He he... we don't fast anymore in the family. It's a tradition long lost. Hey but let me check with Mothi Aai if she does, Aruna Kaki does not I know for sure.
If made in small batches they turn out well...but in large quantities they turn out rubbery.
That is what you need to be careful about.
While I promise the new joinees will be trained to make perfect ones. Here is what I feel about marriage and celebrations related to it. Hope anyone planning a wedding finds it useful. Especially a Koli wedding. This is for all those young grooms and brides who are waiting to get married after Paush is over. Some how I know too many of them are my younger first, second, third cousin brothers and sisters. We are a small community!
We Kolis are modernists when it comes to weddings. Our marriages are most times dowry free. The expenditure on clothes are minimum. The only expenditure is on food. Don't compromise on that. Feed as many people as possible if hosting the reception in the village.
When the couple decides to take the vows. It is their own 100 % risk. You will be your own reason for happiness or sorrow. Family is there for support but the decision should be 100 % your own.
How to plan a wedding:
A wedding is a highly private affair. Keep it that way. The main ceremony should be in the presence of the family from both sides. Public, audience is not required.
If one plans to have a vedic ceremony then all sanskar to be done at family level. Let the elders enjoy the Halad (Beauty treatment- Haldi ceremony) and giving blessing. Let the sisters enjoy preparing for all the small poojas, chuda (dressing up with bangles ceremony), mehndi (though not a koli tradition). Distribute the appropriate duties to all as per their capacities right from elders to children. Each one will enjoy their bit. It is their maan too. Maan is respect.
Do not overspend. If you are able to incorporate all sanskars and is done in presence of the family. Then it is a successful ceremony. Do not buy too many expensive sarees, traditional outfits. They are a waste. Instead buy enough clothes that you can wear to work, parties of the styles you are comfortable in.
If you have stashed a large sum for the wedding but incase you save after you have a small but sanskar rich wedding. Then you have 2 options. Donate whatever you saved for the wedding of a needy. Else use it for your needs to set up home.
Do not make your private, intimate affair that a family wedding is supposed to be into a garish tamasha. Patala tar ghya ...nahi tar sodun dya... accept it if convinced or leave it...
What I would like to see? Crazy couples just right for each other still together even after ages.
Making Sabudana Vadas taught me this lesson. Small batches make better vadas.
So new joinees here is the recipe:
Ingredients
1 cup sabudana/ sago
1 cup butter milk
Prepare sabudana by soaking in butter milk and storing it overnight.
3/4 cup boiled mashed potato
1/4 cup roasted peanuts, crushed
3-4 green chilies, fine chopped
1 teaspoon cumin seeds
salt to taste
Oil for frying
Mix everything together with overnight soaked sabudana to get a dough. Divide into ping pong sized balls. Flatten them for frying. This helps to use lesser oil and they can be shallow fried. Fry until golden and crisp.
Serve with Upavasa chi Chutney and curd if you are fasting. These can be shaped and frozen but after frying need to be served immediately. Once cold they turn rubbery and cannot be enjoyed.
He he... we don't fast anymore in the family. It's a tradition long lost. Hey but let me check with Mothi Aai if she does, Aruna Kaki does not I know for sure.
You can try and mix chooped onions.. Tastes excellent and doesnt get rubbery too
ReplyDeleteSapio that would mean blasphemy for fasting! But I am thinking if am making them even though I do not fast , then onions in sabudana vada sound worth a try.
ReplyDelete